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Why Not Almost There? I had never run a long race in my life, but here I am, in the middle of the 2015 Chicago Marathon. I’m feeling fantastic, even thinking I could go double the distance. Just being in this race was a mini-miracle. I had heart surgery and back surgery a decade earlier. I could barely stand back then, let alone run. Nonetheless, I’m fired up and feel better than ever. Then I see right in front of me— a sign that nearly stops me in my tracks, NOT ALMOST THERE. I try to brush it off but can’t stop thinking about those words. Every step seems heavier, harder, and then I start cramping up. I begin to walk and complain inside and out. I struggle the entire second half but finish (barely) with everything I have after being physically and mentally crushed. I have never stopped thinking about that sign but that’s fueled a quest to understand the power of the mind, body, and spirit. To understand how we accomplish things. To understand how we become better in the race against time and ourselves. Who am I? Southside Chicago kid. Young Father (20). Assembly line worker. Found 15 seconds between building cars to study. Graduated. Took 5 years. Created a few companies. Sold two. 800 employees. Created Refuel and Not Almost There to help others.
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Sunday Jul 18, 2021
Sunday Jul 18, 2021
🤼‍♂️ AMANDA RIPLEY is a New York Times bestselling author and an investigative journalist for The Atlantic and other magazines. Her books include High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way, and The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why. Ripley spent a decade writing about human behavior for Time magazine in New York, Washington, and Paris. Her stories helped Time win two National Magazine Awards.
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→IN THIS EPISODE…Joe and Amanda discuss conflict; the different types, which conflict is good and which is bad. Amanda shares some incredible stories from the road while interviewing people who experienced high conflict in different ways from a gang member to a scholar of conflict who found himself in the same conflict he himself talks about how to avoid.
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🔍 Breakdown with Amanda Ripley:
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Chapter 1 (0:00) Intro
Joe introduces Amanda Ripley, New York Times bestselling author
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Chapter 2 (2:51) Types of conflict
There are several different types of conflict, and not all of them are bad. Amanda explains the good kind of conflict and the bad conflict which is high conflict
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Chapter 3 (8:59) How do you identify when you are in high conflict
Amanda includes a checklist in the back of her book to help identify, which she shares. Also, Amanda gives actionable tips on how to get out of it.
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Chapter 4 (11:58) The Gary Freeman story
Gary Freeman is an attorney who is a conflict expert. He has been a guest lecturer at Harvard and Standford, so when his neighbors asked him to run for office in his little town he would be able to handle it, but things went very wrong. Amanda shares the story.
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Chapter 5 (19:06) Tips from a gang member
Amanda worked with a gang member from Chicago which embodies the ultimate form of high conflict. He shares his story and his journey.
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Chapter 6 (28:02) Changes in congress
Amanda talks about her views on congress and steps they need to take in order to get our limiting two-party system to a place of listening and out of humiliation
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Chapter 7 (33:35) Company acquisition
Joe’s company was acquired and he reflects back with Amanda about the experience, and what someone can do to help ease the merging of two companies or teams.
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Chapter 8 (36:47) Constructive criticism
Start with really active listening. Prove with your responses back that you have really heard them.
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Chapter 9 (42:57) What would be an additional chapter
After the book was published, Amanda has heard so many great stories from people after they have read the book. One idea she would add would be about good conflict, and how it is transcendent.Â
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Chapter 10 (50:18) Wrap Up
Joe concludes the episode and invites Amanda to come back to talk about Smartest Kids on Earth.
Material Referenced in this interview:
→High ConflictÂ
→The Unthinkable
→The Smartest Kids in the World
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đź“ž Connect with Amanda Ripley
→https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-ripley-50a22112/
→https://www.instagram.com/ripleywriter/
→https://www.facebook.com/amanda.ripley.35
→https://www.amandaripley.com/
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đź‘Š To learn more about Not Almost There by visiting this linkÂ
→ Not Almost There http://notalmostthere.com/​
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